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Naperville family law attorney, divorceDivorce can be a touchy subject. If you are considering a divorce, you are likely nervous about how to bring up the subject with your spouse. Asking for a divorce can be one of the most challenging things you will ever do in your life, so it is important that you proceed with caution. The goal should be to discuss the subject openly and honestly, and prepare yourselves for an amicable divorce process. While asking your spouse for a divorce may be difficult at the time, it may be the first step to bringing both of you greater happiness in life. Recently, a few marriage and divorce experts from across the country shared some dos and don’ts to keep in mind when broaching the subject of divorce with your spouse.

Pick a Good Time

Marriage and divorce specialists say that choosing an ideal time to have the divorce discussion with your spouse is extremely important. Pick a time where both of you can talk, uninterrupted and free from distractions. Turn your phones off, make other arrangements for the kids, and allow yourselves space to have an honest conversation. Avoid casually dropping that you would like a divorce. All too often, one spouse will say they want a divorce during an argument or another tense situation, and this only sets the stage for further conflict during the process.


b2ap3_thumbnail_prenuptial-agreement-talking-partner-prenup.jpgNo newly-engaged couple wants to envision their separation. Nothing can spoil the romance and magic of finding a lifelong partner and getting engaged like the thought of divorce. While nobody enters a marriage expecting to get divorced, the reality is that divorce rates in the US are rising steadily. Modern society has less of a stigma about divorce than in the past, so couples that find themselves unhappy are more frequently deciding to go their separate ways. While no marriage should be entered into lightly, everyone certainly deserves the chance to be happy in their life, and if a divorce is the answer down the road, so be it. With divorce, however, comes the tricky details of splitting your finances, which can be be especially tough for couples entering marriage with significant assets already accrued. The difficult process of splitting assets has led to many couples choosing to sign prenuptial agreements. While discussing a prenuptial agreement prior to your marriage can be very difficult, you and your partner will both be financially better off for it, in the unfortunate case of a future divorce. There are a few tactics you can use to discuss a prenuptial agreement with your partner while maintaining a positive outlook.

Why a Prenup?

Marriage has changed a great deal in the past 20 to 30 years. As stated above, divorce rates are among the highest that they have been in decades. On top of that, there is not as much pressure from society to get married at a young age. Many Americans are waiting until well into adulthood to get engaged. By that point in their lives, they have most likely accrued significant assets like cars, homes, and large bank accounts. A young, recently engaged couple with no large individual assets may not need a prenup. For those more financially established couples, however, combining and then splitting assets down the road can be much trickier. For most couples, it is easier to create a financial agreement early in the relationship so there is less uncertainty down the road. Both partners will be allowed to account for all of their individually owned assets, and designate what will happen to them in the event of a divorce. A prenuptial agreement can also designate what happens to your assets in case of a death as well.

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