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co-parenting, Naperville family law attorneyAdjusting to life as a co-parent can be challenging. While you and your spouse were once a united parenting front, you will now need to employ patience and cooperation while parenting with your ex whose parenting style may differ greatly from yours. It can be troubling to watch your children be influenced by a parent whose values do not match yours, but what can be done? Consistency is the key to good co-parenting, and makes the divorce adjustment process much easier on children as well. Talk to your spouse about the importance of consistency as you two move forward as co-parents in the wake of your divorce.

Why Is Consistency Important?

Consistency allows for the smoothest divorce transition possible. Co-parents are encouraged to maintain the same routines, household rules, and habits that they previously established in their shared household. This makes the divorce process much easier on the children, who can become easily confused if rules at mom’s house are different than the rule’s at dads house. In a difficult time of transition, like divorce, children need consistency to provide some sense of normalcy.


parental alienation syndrome, Naperville Illinois divorce lawyerParental Alienation Syndrome (PAS) is a recognized disorder that affects nearly all child custody cases at one time or another, and to one extent or another. It is normally defined as a series of actions, or inactions, which are designed to poison the relationship between the children and one of the parents. In many cases, the mother launches a campaign to discredit the father in the eyes of the children. PAS has been called “maternal brainwashing” by some, and that label is entirely false. More than likely, the high incidence of maternal-child PAS is not a function of the mother’s animus, but a function of the high rate of maternal custody in these situations. Moreover, PAS is not “brainwashing.” Many times, the parent’s behavior may be indirect and perhaps even unintentional, at least on some level. Some Signs Parental Alienation Syndrome is typically like bricks in a wall. Taken individually, they may be largely harmless. However, when put together, they can build a nearly impenetrable wall between a non-custodial parent (NCP) and their children. Some common examples include the following situations:

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