How to Prepare for Your Interview with a Child Custody Evaluator

 Posted on October 30, 2025 in Child Custody

When parents cannot agree on custody or parenting time, the court may appoint a child custody evaluator. This person’s job is to objectively look at the situation and recommend an arrangement that is best for the children. These evaluations are common in high-conflict custody disputes, especially when both parents believe they should have sole custody.

If a judge has ordered a custody evaluation for your case, you need to know what evaluators look for and how to present yourself in a calm, credible way. Your behavior and attitude during the evaluation can have a major impact on the outcome of your case. Our DuPage County custody lawyers can help. 

What Does a Child Custody Evaluator Do?

Under Illinois law (750 ILCS 5/604.10), courts may order a professional custody evaluation. The evaluator is usually a licensed psychologist, social worker, or therapist.

Their job is to give the court information about each parent’s home and parenting skills. The evaluator does not represent either parent. They serve the court and the child’s best interests.

A typical evaluation includes:

• Interviews with both parents and the child (sometimes together and separately)

• Home visits to see living conditions and how the family interacts

• Psychological testing, if necessary

• Review of school, medical, and counseling records

After the investigation, the evaluator gives a written report to the judge with recommendations about custody and visitation.

How Should You Prepare for an Interview with a Custody Evaluator?

Preparation helps you stay calm and confident, which allows the evaluator to see your strengths as a parent.

Stay Focused on Your Child’s Needs

Evaluators want to see that you are putting your child first. Talk about your child’s daily routines, emotional needs, and relationships, not about your frustrations with your ex.

Be Honest and Cooperative

Do not exaggerate or try to make yourself look perfect. Evaluators are trained to spot inconsistencies and emotional defensiveness. Be truthful about your strengths and weaknesses as a parent. Admitting areas where you are improving can make you appear more genuine and self-aware.

Be Calm and Respectful 

Even if the custody case has been stressful, try not to show anger or hostility during the interview. Speaking calmly and respectfully reflects well on you. Avoid interrupting or criticizing the evaluator, even if you disagree with a question.

Get Your Home Ready for Observation

If the evaluator visits your home, make sure it is clean, organized, and safe. Provide a comfortable environment that shows you care for your child, with items such as toys, books, or other personal belongings. Evaluators are not looking for perfection, but they do look for signs of good parenting.

Be Ready to Talk About Your Parenting Plan

The evaluator may ask what type of parenting schedule or decision-making arrangement you believe is best. Be prepared to explain why your proposal benefits your child.

What to Avoid During a Custody Evaluation

Certain mistakes can make you look bad in front of the evaluator. For example:

• Badmouthing the other parent

• Encouraging your child to say specific things

• Ignoring temporary court orders

• Being defensive or argumentative

Remember that evaluators are looking for parents who can give kids a good home life and will cooperate with the other parent. 

Call a Naperville, IL Child Custody Lawyer Today

The DuPage County, IL custody evaluation attorneys at Pesce Law Group, P.C. have nearly two decades of experience helping parents in complex custody battles. Our team regularly handles cases involving custody evaluations, guardian ad litem investigations, and contested parenting plans.

To discuss your situation and learn how to get ready for your custody evaluation, call Pesce Law Group, P.C. at 630-352-2240 today. We offer free consultations.