Should I Talk to a Divorce Attorney?

 Posted on November 06, 2025 in Divorce

Many people worry that meeting with a divorce lawyer will make divorce inevitable, but this is not true. Speaking with an attorney does not mean you must file for divorce. It simply means you are finding out about your rights and options.

If you are feeling unsure, confused, or stuck, a meeting with a Naperville, IL divorce lawyer can help you understand what divorce would look like for your specific situation. At Pesce Law Group, P.C., we offer no-pressure consultations so you can get the information you need before you decide what to do next. 

When It’s Time to Talk to a Divorce Lawyer

You do not need to wait until you are ready to file paperwork to contact a lawyer. In fact, most attorneys encourage clients to reach out earlier rather than later. Here are some situations where meeting with a divorce lawyer is usually a good idea.

You’re Thinking Seriously About Separation

If you and your spouse are living apart, arguing constantly, or talking about divorce, it is wise to know your legal rights before making big decisions. An attorney can explain how Illinois law handles property, custody, and finances during a separation or divorce.

You’re Worried About Money or Property

Divorce can have major financial consequences. A lawyer can help you understand how marital assets would likely be divided under Illinois’ equitable distribution laws. If you believe your spouse is hiding money or running up debt, it is especially important to get advice right away.

You Have Children

When kids are involved, divorce becomes more complicated. Illinois law requires parenting plans that cover custody (now called "allocation of parental responsibilities") and parenting time schedules. Talking to an attorney early can help you plan for a stable parenting plan that protects your parental rights.

You Feel Unsafe or Pressured

If you are in an emotionally or physically abusive relationship, a divorce lawyer can help you create a safe plan for leaving. They can also help with getting an order of protection and connect you with local support resources.

Your Spouse Has Already Hired an Attorney

Even if you hope to resolve things peacefully, it is never a good idea to navigate divorce alone once lawyers are involved on the other side. You deserve someone equally experienced to represent your interests.

What to Expect at an Initial Consultation with a Divorce Lawyer

Nothing you share with your lawyer in a consultation can be discussed with anyone else without your permission. Here’s what usually happens during that first meeting:

You will tell your story. The attorney will ask questions about your marriage, finances, children, and goals. You do not need to bring every document right away, but if you have tax returns, pay stubs, or property information, those can be helpful.

The lawyer will explain your rights. You will learn how Illinois handles property division, child custody, child support, and spousal maintenance (alimony). The attorney can also outline what steps are required to start the divorce process if you decide to move forward.

Call a DuPage County Divorce Lawyer Today

If you are unsure whether to speak to a lawyer about divorce, remember: Getting good information is not a commitment to getting divorced. A short consultation can help you understand your rights and next steps.

At Pesce Law Group, P.C., our DuPage County divorce attorneys have nearly two decades of experience guiding clients through divorce with honesty and care. Call 630-352-2240 today to schedule a free, totally confidential consultation.