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DuPage County divorce attorneysJust as every marriage is unique, every divorce is unique as well. There is no perfect way to end a marriage and spouses should choose the divorce options and resources which fit their particular needs. Some couples are able to get a divorce without any help resolving divorce issues such as disagreements regarding property division, child custody, or other concerns. However, many couples need help in order to come to an agreement about these issues. In situations such as these, divorcing individuals in Illinois may benefit from alternative dispute resolution in the form of mediation and collaborative law.

Mediation Can Help Couples Communicate About Divorce Issues

Understandably, it can be very difficult for divorcing spouses to come to a resolution regarding divorce issues. They may have feelings of resentment, anger, or blame toward each other which make it hard to discuss issues without the discussion collapsing into arguments. During the mediation process, divorcing spouses work with a qualified mediator who acts as a neutral third party to facilitate productive conversations.

Mediators will help the spouses identify the issues they agree on as well as those which they disagree on. Through a series of meetings, the mediator helps the spouses reach an agreement about the remaining divorce issues. Mediation is generally much more cost-effective than divorce litigation through the court. It is often a better way to resolve issues when children are involved because mediation proceedings are confidential unlike a public court feud.


b2ap3_thumbnail_millennials-divorce-marriage-cohabitation.jpgSociologists and demographers often struggle to find a specific delineation between one acknowledged generation and the next. As such, it can be difficult for a single person to identify as a member of a “named” generation. The bigger picture, however, is often more clear, as the values, tendencies, and habits of a generation become evident even with a specific demarcation indicating the exact year in which that generation began. For example, the generation known as “millennials,” represents a large group of those born from the early 1980s to the late 1990s, at least according to generally accepted standards. As the millennials are now becoming parents, their views and approach to family life are beginning to impact overall social trends, including those regarding children before marriage and divorce.

The Youthful Face of Change

Every generation represents a departure of sorts from those that preceded it, especially the previous two. Millennials are, for the most part, the children of Generation X, and the grandchildren of the Baby Boomers. Just as Gen Xers challenged the values of their Baby Boomer parents, with the introduction of punk, metal, and grunge music, and the rejection of more conservative religious, political and social views, the trend has continued with millennials. Nowhere has this been more obvious than in the dramatic shifts in family values and what millennials hold as important.

Baby Before Marriage?

Several studies in recent years have suggested that more and more young people are rejecting social pressure to marry. This has led to an increase in the average age of first-time newlyweds and a growing number of cohabitating couples who consider themselves, for all intents and purposes, a family. In fact, according to a Time Magazine survey, only about 40 percent of millennial parents say that is very or extremely important to be married before having a baby. Compare that to the approximately 50 percent of Gen X and Boomer parents who believe marriage is very or extremely important first, and the change over a single generation seems rather large.


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Naperville business law attorneyThe holidays are a special time of year for many people. They look forward to the workplace Christmas parties, family gatherings, special meals, and exchanging of presents. However, for some people this is not the “most wonderful time of the year” at all. Those who have recently separated from their spouse may be dreading the holiday season. If you are facing your first important holiday without your spouse, you may feel lonely or incomplete without them. You may worry about how to explain your spouse’s absence at family get-togethers. You may even feel like skipping the holidays completely. These are all understandable reactions to experience after a break-up. There is no perfect way to make it through your first holiday alone, but experts do have some advice to help.

Avoid Isolating

There is so much pressure to be joyous and merry during the holiday season that it can be overwhelming, especially for someone grieving the end of a relationship. If you have recently gone through a break-up, you may be tempted to stay in bed during the entire holiday season. While some alone time is healthy, complete isolation is not. Try to attend at least a few holiday events and gatherings this year. You may be surprised at how supportive your friends and family will be. Even just getting out of the house for a change of scenery can be enough to help lift your mood.

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