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Six of the Most Common Reasons People Get Divorced in Illinois

 Posted on February 28, 2022 in Divorce

DuPage County divorce attorneyWhile divorce rates in the United States are notoriously high, at up to an estimated 40 percent, the reasons behind the divorce rates are more complex than initial statistics suggest. Social scientists have long studied the complex human relationships that form love and marital bonds, and while certain factors can contribute to divorce rates (like early marriage or cohabitation before marriage), people who have gotten divorced have directly shared their reasoning as well. Here are six of the most common reasons that people in Illinois get divorced. 

Lack of Commitment

While couples will often give different reasons for why they got divorced, lack of commitment is frequently cited by both spouses as the reason the marriage ultimately fell apart. Lack of commitment can manifest in other ways, such as cheating and not being willing to work on the relationship, but many people feel as though the true issue underlying these other problems is a lack of commitment to the marriage itself. 

Growing Apart

It can be a good thing or a bad thing, but people change as they grow older. The passage of time, the death of loved ones, and major life events like retirement can dramatically shift our perspectives and priorities. Sometimes, these differences are significant enough to break down a marriage that was built on formerly shared commonalities. 


Although many spouses do admit to cheating, a surprising number do not cite this as the primary reason they got divorced. More often, infidelity accompanies other problematic behaviors that are seen as more important. This may be because infidelity is often seen as the last event in a long string of problems that finally puts the nail in the proverbial coffin. 

Money Matters

Financial incompatibility may seem less important to a young couple in the heady throes of early love, but serious financial differences can make long-term marital compatibility impossible. If one spouse refuses to save or struggles with a shopping addiction, it can put unbearable stress on a relationship. 

Substance Abuse

Like financial problems, substance abuse has the potential to introduce a range of other major issues. Secrecy, dishonesty, a lack of the ability to plan for the future, and unpredictable and even dangerous behavior can make a marriage to someone with substance abuse unsustainable. 

Domestic Abuse

Sadly, domestic abuse in the form of physical, verbal, or emotional abuse is quite common in divorces. Interestingly, far more women than men say domestic violence was a major reason that their marriage ended - likely because women are more often the victims of physical violence, but also because victims of abuse see it as a much greater problem than perpetrators. 

Speak to an Experienced Naperville Divorce Lawyer

If you are considering divorce and want to learn more about the process and what your case might look like, schedule a free consultation with a skilled Naperville divorce attorney with Pesce Law Group, P.C.. While we cannot help you decide whether to get divorced, we can provide you with outstanding representation and peace of mind that your divorce process is in good hands. Call us today at 630-352-2240 to set up your first meeting today. 



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