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Men and Women Differ on the Definition of Cheating

 Posted on January 17, 2017 in Divorce

Naperville divorce attorneyThe internet has opened new worlds of opportunity in many areas of life. It is now easier than ever for people to find new jobs, work remotely, make instant payments, and connect with people from around the globe. The proliferation of digital technology has also forced us to rethink our ideas of what constitutes cheating or infidelity in a relationship—behaviors that can easily push married couples toward divorce. While there have always been varying thoughts on the subject, the ubiquitous nature of cell phones, text messages, and online dating sites have expanded the spectrum considerably. It also seems that there is a pretty substantial divide between what men and women consider cheating on a partner.

Most married couples—and those in a long-term committed relationship—are connected on many levels. Their relationships are typically marked by a physical connection, as well as deep emotional and psychological ties. Virtually everyone agrees that having sex with someone outside of your committed relationship constitutes cheating. But, what about breaches of the other elements of a relationship?

Opinion Surveys

In recent years, there have been many studies and survey conducted on the subject, and opinions vary greatly among people of all demographics. The difference between men and women, however, is very interesting. According to one survey, more than 80 percent of women polled believed that flirty texts and online conversations were unfaithful acts, but only 56 percent men thought this was true. The numbers were similar regarding emotional relationships with someone else, with 77 percent of women believing that emotional relationships are cheating compared to just 55 percent of men.

Talk to Your Partner

Considering the personal nature of relationships, it is understandable that opinions would differ between various groups, and even between partners in a marriage. That is why communication is so important. What may not feel like cheating to you could be cheating by your spouse’s standards, but if you cannot talk about it, you may only find out after the damage has been done. Have open and honest conversations with your partner to understand better where the boundaries are in your relationship.

Under Illinois law, marital infidelity is no longer considered formal grounds for divorce, but the strain that such behavior can put on a marriage often leads to the end of the relationship. If you are considering a divorce, speak with an experienced Naperville family law attorney to discuss your available options. Call 630-352-2240 for a free consultation at Pesce Law Group, P.C. today.


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